Lillian Wilder joined us on August 3, 2015 at 3:32am. She had her own plans for her arrival and came into this world on her own speedy timeline.
**If you're not into birth stories, just skip the words and look at sweet Lillian's pictures**
On Sunday, August 2, 2015, my parents joined us at our house for dinner. Little did we know that they'd be coming back just a few hours after they left! I woke up around 11:30pm to go to the bathroom. Nothing unusual for 9 months pregnant, but something felt different. I didn't think I was in labor but wasn't sure.
I laid in bed until 12:30, not able to fall back asleep, so I went to the kitchen to do the dishes. At this point, I was starting to think that I might be in labor (maybe those are contractions!) but also wasn't convinced it wasn't just the aftermath of eating too much for dinner :) I got back in bed and started timing my "contractions" and at 1:40am when Andy rolled over stirring, I took that opportunity to alert him. I was clear that I wasn't sure they were contractions but at some point, I snapped at him for talking to me. He took that as an indication that it was go-time. Andy called my parents who scurried over in record time (even though Andy told them to mosey over!) to our house to be with Thomas. He told me to call the doctor, which I did at 1:50am. By my timing, my contractions were 7-12 minutes apart and that's what I told the doctor. He told me to wait until they were 4 minutes and then go to the hospital.
I took a shower at a leisurely pace, and Andy took my list to finish packing my hospital bag. When I got out of the shower, I told Andy that I was either having an appendicitis or a baby. Either way, we were heading to the hospital. Mom and Dad arrived, I got ready to go, Andy went to pack the car and pull it into the driveway. I was doubled over in pain in the living room and when the contraction subsided (I think by this point, I'd faced the facts that I was in labor), I walked to the car with Dad's help. By the time I got to the car, another contraction was starting. As Dad told Mom when he returned to the house, it doesn't take more than 2 minutes to get to the car! Thankfully there's no traffic in the middle of the night and we made it to the hospital in no time. I did tell Andy to run 2 red lights but told him to slow down as we were approaching the speed camera (I knew it's placement from prior experience...).
We arrived at the hospital around 2:45am and the ER attendant could read the pain on my face and came to get my in a wheelchair. Andy went to park the car, and they wheeled me up to Labor & Delivery. The nurse checked me into my room and then told me I was 7cm. Excuse me, what?! When I checked into the hospital before Thomas was born, I hadn't dilated at all (they gave me a pity 1/2 cm) and wasn't having contractions. This was the complete opposite, and I didn't know what to think. She asked me if I was planning a natural childbirth to which I responded "no, I'd like an epidural immediately, please". She just looked at me and smiled.
Before Andy made it back from the parking garage, 3 more nurses had descended upon my room, lights were on bright and it seemed pretty chaotic. That was the scene when Andy arrived (oh and to add to the chaos, I forgot to have on my packing list-- ID & Insurance Card! Dad had to come to the hospital to bring my wallet.). He said that he knew immediately, that this was happening fast. I hadn't really come to terms with it.
4 minutes after the first check, she checked again and I was at 8cm. I think it was around this point that she told me that I wasn't getting an epidural. Andy said the look in my eyes was a look he's never seen before and hopes to never see again. I was more scared than I've ever been. Next check, 9cm. My doctor still wasn't there ("he's on his way" they kept saying). They had to give me oxygen because Lillian's heart rate was dropping. Andy said they really just couldn't get a good read on her heartbeat because I was writhing in pain which was disrupting the monitors and the oxygen was really for me because I was nearly hyperventilating (uh, of course!).
The hospital doctor came into the room just in case my doc didn't make it but thankfully, he arrived literally in the nick of time. He pulled on his scrubs over his clothes, checked me and then said it's time to push.
3 quick pushes later he said he needed 1 more. I didn't believe him. I pushed for 3 hours with Thomas. I had heard the "one more push" line before! I couldn't give him "1 more push" over and over for 3 hours! But he really meant it, one more push and there she was!
At 3:32am Lillian Wilder made her entrance in quite the memorable way. She wanted to make sure we knew who was calling the shots now. It took me a few minutes to realize what had happened. I remember the nurse saying "it's ok, she's just in a bit of shock" as I just stared. Hadn't we just pulled up to the hospital 45 minutes earlier? Is this really possible? But it was. Lillian had arrived, weighing in at 7lbs even and measuring 19.5" long. She is perfect.